Do not assume that because I dislike confrontation that I will not stick up for myself.
Do not assume that because I am smiling that I am happy.
Do not assume that because I share a lot through social media that I have no secrets.
Do not assume that because I am broken that I will let you treat me like a door mat.
Do not assume that because I am a mother that I have no interest in anything other than child rearing.
Do not assume that because I wear makeup that I am vain.
Do not assume that because I am a SAHM that I spend all day colouring in and going out for coffee.
Do not assume that because I am pro-breastfeeding that I am anti-formula.
Do not assume that because I have lots of friends that I'm not lonely.
Do not assume that because I am outgoing that I am not insanely anxious.
What do people assume about you?
lots of the same things. Very true post.
ReplyDeleteToo friggin much!
ReplyDeleteThat I must want another child.
ReplyDeleteThat I must be going back to work.
That I am scary when I am just blunt.
people assume that (because I am a control freak) and save my tears for behind closed doors that I don't have any and that I'm tough as bricks and therefore don't require that extra kindness, because I'm doing just fine.
ReplyDeletepeople assume that I am awesome.
ReplyDeleteAnd they would be right.
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That I am strong.
ReplyDeleteThat because I'm not crying you haven't hurt me.
That because I am chosing to stay at home with my kids I really mustn't be very smart.
That because I hate my kitchen and don't cook much that I can't.
That because I am quiet I must be fooled and will let you walk all over me.
That I will do anything to have another child.
That I'm a bitch because I can rattle a few fucking lines off to put you in your place if you piss me off enough.
That I'm confident.
People assume I'm a bitch and up myself. Most likely I am...
ReplyDeleteGreat post Glowless. People assume so many things about me I could go on and on - this should be a linky!
ReplyDeletePeople assume because I'm quiet that I'm uninteresting.
That I haven't gone back to work yet because I am lazy and/or stupid.
That because I am polite they can ignore what I want for my kids, my life.
That what I have to say isn't worth listening to.
That they know what's better for my kids than I do.
Love this list! Don't assume that because I'm a good friend, you can use me and not offer me the same in return
ReplyDeleteLots of yours already and
ReplyDeleteDo not assume that because I need this job I want this job.
Word.
I love this post ... A world without assumption and labeling would be a lovely place.
ReplyDeleteWhat you said.
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Do not assume that I'm depressed or need meds because I'm often low on physical or emotional energy.
ReplyDeleteDo not assume (nobodies) I'm a bad parent or my child's undisciplined, especially when you don't know what you are looking at.Do not assume because I haven't called, there's an issue. You have a phone too.
Do not assume what 'normal' is or should be.
Many of those (and in the comments) ring true for me.
ReplyDeleteOne big one for me is:
Dont assume because I'm sometimes aloof that I'm a bitch or up myself.
I will never assume anything about you! I think you are full of surprises.. great post. great topic.
ReplyDeleteDammit Glow - for some reason this post just unleashed the floodgates.
ReplyDeleteDon't assume that just because I walk tall that inside I'm not broken.
do not assume that because i'm not saying anything, i'm not thinking something … xt
ReplyDeleteI am now in love with you x
ReplyDeleteDo not assume I don't know about sexual abuse
Do not assume I don't know about mental illness
Do not assume I don't know about alcoholism
Do not assume that because I'm not religious I am not spiritual
Do not assume because I work with behaviour and children that I am judgemental
Do not assume anything about me unless you've walked in my shoes and lived my life
Do not assume that because I always have a smile for all that means that my heart ever totally mended
ReplyDeleteDo not assume I am weak simply because I am humble and honest.
ReplyDeleteDo not assume that because I work I don't want to be home with my family
ReplyDeleteDo not assume that because I don't say you hurt me, you didn't
Because I am shy, I know I get mistaken for being a snob/arrogant/vain.
ReplyDeleteNothing could be further from the truth.
When people are talking to me, I am just dying with shyness. DYING with it.
People often assume I can speak Swedish, just because I've lived her for 12 years. I can't. Well, not very well.
ReplyDeletethat because i stay with my husband i think abuse is okay or i'm not strong enough to leave
ReplyDeletethat because i am down i am out
that because i didn't go to college i am stupid
that because i have anxiety and depression i am crazy
that because i'm overweight i am lazy or unhealthy
that because you heard it it's true
that because i am smiling i am not desperately lonely
that because i am calm on the outside i am not screaming on the inside
that because i let your mean comments go they were above my head. they are not above my head i just choose not to call you out because you're not worth my time. but trust me, i have gotten every single insult you have flung my way and it just makes you look mean, petty and ignorant in my eyes and only makes me stronger.
and if i can steal these:
Do not assume that because I dislike confrontation that I will not stick up for myself.
Do not assume that because I am broken that I will let you treat me like a door mat
i love this! i feel better =)
I absolutely agree with these! I couldn't have phrased it better.
ReplyDeleteDo not assume that because I'm skinny, I eat air for breakfast and exercise 24 hours a day.
ReplyDeleteDo not assume that because I'm skinny, I am healthy and don't need to worry about my weight.
Do not assume that because I am a SAHM, I am not smart.Do not assume that because I am a SAHM, I must be counting down the days until I go 'back' to 'real' work.
Great post, Glow. Scary, though. It's hard to get the lid back on this can of worms!!
Don't assume that because I'm an atheist I'm also bi ;)
ReplyDeletei hate people who assume things because when they do, they're also usually passing judgement - two things i cannot stand.
ReplyDeletedo not assume that because i don't have children, i never wanted them. do not assume that i'm HAPPY about having time to sleep in, do things on a whim and have freedom because i have no children - because i'd trade them all in a heartbeat.
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